Category Archive : Inspiration

Divorce Attorney, Leslie Montanile, Gives 5 Ways New Divorcees Can Rebuild Their Lives and Live Out Their Purpose.

One of the things that most people hate the most in life is change. Any change can be hard, but especially leaving a long term relationship and marriage. Moving on is hard, but usually what we need to live a more fulfilling life. Divorce Attorney Leslie Montanile spoke with us to give a few tips for those who are starting their new journey in life.

1. Envision your life as you want to live it

Seeing what your life can look like in your mind can help you plan for the future you may have been dreaming about for some time. Writing down your dreams, desires, and goals for your life in a journal will allow you to explore yourself and dig deeper into what makes you tick and ultimately make you happy for your life – your purpose.

2.     Make a plan for getting what you want

Once you are clear on your purpose for your new life achieving those goals can seem like a daunting task.  Creating a plan, like a road map, will enable you to take one step at a time – one day at a time- to get you where you want to go.  Your plan should include where and how you want to live, your financial picture, career goals, and social interests. Defining each of these in writing will give you the ability to take steps towards creating your new life.  For example, when you understand your finances, savings, earnings, credit, retirement, etc…, it will help you decide how you want to live (buying vs. renting) and where you want to live (city, suburbs, farm, beach, lake or mountains.  It will also give you security, knowing what you have exactly and what you are comfortable living with.  Social interests are vital as it encompasses your life outside of work. When rebuilding your life, you want to include those things that bring you joy from daily living.

3.     Learn from others

Whether you are starting a new career, learning a new craft, or delving into a new social arena, be open to learning from others. Specifically from those that have been there before and or have the expertise to teach you something new or help you have a deeper understanding of something you already knew.  Networking groups, exercise classes (in the gym and outside), card clubs, cooking classes, book clubs, knitting – whatever moves you there is a pretty good chance there is a group out there that you can join to learn or enhance your skills while making a new friend and contacts all at the same time.

4.     Change your daily routine

To truly move on from your old life prior to divorce, changing your daily routine is a must. Every week change something old to something new.  Take a different route home.  Exercise at night if you used to in the morning. Change your bank or location.  Try a new supermarket for your groceries. Try a new nail salon or go with colors you would never have used before, its only paint.  Explore what is around you. Say yes to all the things you said no to in the past for all the wrong reasons. Skip the excuses and embrace the new you.  

5.     Create a contract with yourself

It’s your life, and if you agree with yourself, in writing, what you will set out to achieve and take those steps to get there, you will succeed.  Even if the path leads you down a road less traveled or not anticipated, you will move towards that life goal that you set for yourself if you hold yourself accountable for your personal happiness and success.

About Leslie

LESLIE MONTANILE began practicing matrimonial law in 1992 in Los Angeles, California. Working in a prestigious boutique law firm she worked closely with clients to successfully achieve their desired goals and immediate needs. Upon moving back to her native home in New York and working at NBC between 1997-1999, Montanile decided in January of 2000 to open her own law practice and dedicate her legal career to helping women effectively navigate the process of divorce and achieve independent financial success. Montanile received her law degree from the Benjamin N. Cardozo School of Law in New York City, and is admitted to practice before the Courts of the State of New York, California and Connecticut. She is a member of the Family Law Section of the New York State Bar Association, the Westchester Women’s Bar Association, a Woman’s NYC mastermind group and both the California and Connecticut Bar Associations. She has made guest appearances on Women’s Radio network and morning show, Connecticut 1 speaking about women’s issues that occur before, during and after a divorce. Her work has also been referenced in Westchester Magazine and Inside Westchester. 

Santia Deck Becomes the First Woman Athlete to Own a Sneaker Company

Santia is known for breaking records that are typically reserved for men athletes only. She recently signed a multi-million dollar contract with WFLA or Women’s Football League Association. This is the biggest contract that WFLA has signed with a female athlete. Her talk show, Queen of Abs is also available on iSHE TV, iHolyfield TV, and NPOWERED. Deck is using all the available platforms for inspiring young women. She has overcome many challenges in her life like scoliosis and bullying. Deck is an inspiration for all young women. Aside from that, she just launched her own sneaker company, and is the first women athlete to achieve this feat.

Deck new sneaker company is TRONUS and it has already received an amazing response. WFLA has done years of planning for this moment. Santia has already represented many shoe brands in the past. She has been the brand ambassador of various amazing shoe brands. Santia has finally achieved her goal of owning a sneaker company. Her team has brought on Jamine Sills. Jamine Sills is an amazing footwear designer and he is now working as a creative consultant for Santia Deck. The project got delayed as Santia wanted some non-negotiable things in her shoe. She wanted her shoes to be both fashion-forward and unique. The shoe should have a lightweight feel. She wanted a shoe that her fans can collect and show off. Deck wanted to make sure that her first attempt is successful. Thus, she and her team spent a lot of time learning about the shoe industry. Their project has evolved into a big shoe empire now.

Deck has been teasing TRONUS to her fans. She has already uploaded many original concepts on her social media accounts. The fans were flooding with her requests before even she launched the official website. Thus, her shoes were already hit. TRONUS is now offering free registration to their users.  You can get VIP access on TRONUS. This will ensure that you will get priority. Thus, you can buy the shoes before they are available on the general website. There are also many other perks that TRONUS is offering to the VIP members. TRONUS has gained 10 times the VIP members that they have first anticipated. They had a rough figure in their mind after they saw the response of fans on the Santia Instagram page. However, fans have completely blown away that figure. The team is worried now as they think that their entire first limited edition shoe will be sold to VIP members only. They won’t have enough shoes for the general public. The best thing about this is that they have still advertised their product. Thus, Deck is very happy with these initial numbers. Multiple resellers now want to sell these shoes. One reseller is even ready to buy the entire stock of TRONUS. However, Deck and her team have already declined this offer. They know the value of their brand.

There are many other business-savvy women like Rihanna and Serena Williams that have already collaborated with big brands. They are already working with big brands like Puma and Nike. Santia Deck is also trying to expand their brand in the same direction. They want to build a big brand. Deck also wants to compete with these big players. She wants to create a big brand like Nike and Puma.

Author Tiffany Love Wrote a Journal Helping Others on Their Spiritual Journey

Give us a little bit of your background, and what inspired you to write your story

I have always been a journaler and I love shopping for pretty journals. I have a ton of them most all written in.  I usually wake up and write down my dreams, my goals, and I’ll journal during my devotional time.  When I find it hard to pray I’ll sit before God and worship and will write out my prayers and he’ll give me strategies on what to do or whether or not I shouldn’t do it. So I created the journals to share my love for journals and my experience with others. 

Tell us about your journal and what can readers expect from reading it ? This journal was created to write your goals that align with the word of God. Also, you can keep track of your monthly prayers and the outcome.  It’s a way of keeping in contact with the Lord and creating that intimate relationship with the father and making personal.

What has been one of the most challenging things throughout your writing process ?

Throughout this process of creating this project, one of the challenges I faced was finding the time to work on it.

Who are some of your literary inspirations and why ?

Some of my literary inspirations are:

 Tony Morrison

Maya Angelou

Kimberla Lawson Roby

Mary Monroe

These women are my inspiration because they all have their own creativity in telling the stories of African Americans through the eyes of African American women.  

What other projects are you working on along with your book?
Some of my next projects are to get back to working on writing more fiction books and I also want to create more journals. I love them and I think by journaling every day it will help you get clarity about your life.

Leave us with some final words of encouragement to your readers and aspiring authors 

I would encourage my readers and inspiring authors to share their stories. Everyone has a story to tell and our stories help heal others.  Aspiring authors should stop procrastinating and go for it. Treat your writing project like it’s your baby and nurture it. Stay disciplined and consistent and always show up for yourself before anything else!

Tiffany Love

Purchase your copy of Tiffanys journey here: https://www.amazon.com/Visions-Dreams-Destinys-Collide-Journal/dp/1734780800?fbclid=IwAR1FDP9_47o-Q8jXwFsTzv-7v1qAs5PBr_XK0DARWSQhIUn-cs0Af-u2wSg

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