Marriage Tips With Dave and Kimmie : Spending Quality Time

Sometimes marriage can feel like an amusement park. There are lots of attractions, sweet treats, and plenty of people looking to enjoy a great “ride” with you. The roller coasters have a way of keeping you at the edge of your seat and gasping for air. And when the big drop comes, it may cause you to shout with excitement because of the adrenaline and g-forces that you feel down in your belly. Just make sure you didn’t have a meal before the ride, unless you want everyone else to know exactly what it was (lol). But doesn’t everybody love theme parks (smirk) or nah? One things for sure, being married for 14+ years has taught us that sometimes you have to pull away from the thrill and spend direct, consensual, intentional time with your mate.

The truth is that we all love the thrill, but not all of us love the “real.” Dealing with the real is when we accept each other with our strengths and flaws and still choose to love. Yes, the real you without the dressings, the custom outfits, or high heels. And believe us, this is something that takes a great amount of sacrifice, intentionality, maturity, & patience to filter out the many distractions that keep us from putting our mate first. Don’t believe us? Try having a conversation with your spouse and not looking down at your phone when that text, or that email notification goes off. Or try leaving the phone in the bedroom when you get to the dinner table. It’s not that easy is it? Oh, did we say dinner table? Do people even use those anymore?

The reality is that our world has changed and sometimes the only way that we can foster a traditional marriage relationship that strives to survive in a self-driven, narcissistic culture is to adopt some good old-fashioned people skills.

The bottom line is this. Your spouse is your “Lifelong Case Study.” If you haven’t taken on the initiative to have the marriage of your dreams, the time is now. Invest in some “His & Her-ology” because the more you learn about your mate, the more it will reward you in the long run. After all, who else did you join hands in marriage to please for a lifetime? Fight to Make it Work!

“You Create the Marriage of Your Dreams”

Dave & Kimmie
www.daveandkimmie.com

If You’re Looking for Cheap Flight Deals, Here Are 2 Things You Need to Do

Written By Aysha Chaudhry

Travel among young adults has been growing in popularity for a number of years now. We all have different motivations for wanting to travel; it feeds our wanderlust, it allows us to see and experience new things, it helps us look cultured on our social media pages, but whatever the reason, travel is becoming more accessible because of a slew of new technologies and apps designed to help you find the best deals. Below are two things you should do if you’re looking for great flight deals.

1. Search for the best days to travel on Kayak.com – The reason I personally prefer Kayak over other airline comparison sites is its ease of use and its cool feature of being able to look at flight deals over a 6-day time period. You can find the cheapest day and time to fly in an easy-to-view grid and then select the airline of your choosing based on price. While they don’t have every airline, they have a majority of the big-name as well as budget airlines.

2. Download the Hopper app and “Watch” a flight – If you have planned your travel well in advance, you may have the opportunity to save even more. Select a flight you want to keep your eye on, and you’ll receive push notifications when it’s the right time to buy, prices are rising, or (my favorite notification) your flight is on sale for an amazing deal.

iPhone’s Rival Vivo Introduce New Fingerprint Sensor Technology

Chinese phone manufacturer  Vivo, introduced its new fingerprint sensor technology which is embedded in a smartphone screen, on Wednesday June 28th, in Shanghai at the Mobile World Congress 2017. The ‘Under Display Fingerprint Scanning Solution’ is based on Qualcomm technology and was demonstrated running on prototype devices, which are based on the existing Vivo Xplay 6   device.

The under-display fingerprint solution, which doesn’t require a physical button for the sensor, is “the first to be demonstrated by a smartphone manufacturer”, Vivo claimed. The technology will enable the use of an integrated unibody and mechanical waterproofing design, and “true full-screen display”, the company  said .

Vivo stated to Engadget that, while the fingerprint scanning function was limited to a small region on the prototype devices,  the same sensing technology could be applied across the entire screen, but that it would significantly increase production cost.

In a release, the company also stated: “In Vivo’s R&D plan, fingerprint scanning will not be carried out by an independent button or region. It will be realised more subtly under the screen, behind the metal shell, or even in the frame. Based on ultrasonic technology, the fingerprint recognition technology can be further expanded to realize user interaction, such as gesture recognition, security verification and other fields, which will greatly enhance user experience.”

With so many new advancements happening in the technology world, this new fingerprint technology comes as no surprise. How do you think this new technology will affect the way we as humans utilize cellular devices?

The Family of Philando Castile wins $3 Million Settlement over Wrongful Death Police Shooting

The family of Philando Castile, the unarmed black man fatally shot by a Minnesota police officer back in July 2016 during traffic stop, reached a settlement of nearly $3 million with the city of St.Anthony, Minnesota.

This announcement, which was made by both parties involved, came a week and a half after the officer who did the shooting,  Jeronimo Yanez, was acquitted of the fatal shooting, which streamed on Facebook live by Philando’s girlfriend.

In a joint statement with the city of St.Anthony, Valerie Castile, who is the mother of Philando, is said to receive $2.995 million as part of the settlement.

The statement read “The city and Valerie Castile were able to reach this agreement avoiding a federal civil rights lawsuit which may have taken years to work its way through the courts exacerbating the suffering of the family and of the community.”

Although no amount of money could ever bring  back her slain son, the settlement saved the family from going through the long term troubles of filing a federal civil rights  lawsuit with the city. As we have seen in previous wrongful death cases of African American men and women, the officers involved rarely get charged with any worng doing.

In another police officer involved shooting in Ferguson, Mo of an unarmed black man that made national headlines in 2014, the parents of Michael Brown recently settled their wrongful death lawsuit last week. Upon initially not going public with the settlement,  the Ferguson city attorney later said it was for $1.5 million. The grand jury involved with his case decided not to indict officer  Darren Wilson, and the Justice Department also declined to pursue federal charges.

It is saddens us to see this type of racial discrimination still taking place in the 21st century. No parent should ever have to bury their child, and especially under circumstances. We are prayng for better days.

Muppet With Autism Joins Sesame Street TV Show

Meet Julia, the newest addition to the Sesame Street show  in over a decade. She is just like all the other characters, except she has autism. Julia’s addition to the show is part of Sesame Street’s autism-related “See Amazing In All Children” campaign. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimate that as many as one in 68 U.S. children have autism. It is also reported from CNN  that with the introduction of Julia, Sesame Street “hopes to give viewers with autism and their families a character to identify with.”

During an interview on 60 Minutes, writer Christine Ferraro told the news show, “The big discussion right at the start was, ‘How do we do this? How do we talk about autism?’” The goal is to bring about more awareness about autism, and the effects that it has on children. Many people don’t understand what the life of an autistic child is like, and why they behave in they’re manner. Hopefully from watching the show, society will have a better view on how to treat those with autistic needs.

Greek Organization Spotlight: Kappa Alpha Psi

Written by Kiera Robinson

If you’ve ever been to the quad, Kappa BBQ or any other Kappa event held by Kappa Alpha Psi then I’m sure that you’ve seen the smoothness of a Kappa man. It’s almost as if they glide whenever they enter the room. Ever wonder where the fraternity originated from? Well, this Founder’s Day is your chance to read up a little on the organization and it’s foundation.

January 5th marks the anniversary of Greek-letter fraternity, Kappa Alpha Psi. This fraternity was founded on January 5, 1911 at Indiana University Bloomington. Though Kappa Alpha Psi has a predominantly African-American based membership, it is filled with much diversity.
The organization’s founders Dr. Ezra D. Alexander, Dr. Byron Kenneth Armstrong, Dr. Marcus Peter Blakemore, Dr. Guy Levis Grant, Edward Giles Irvin, Atty. Henry Tourner Asher, Sgt. John Milton Lee, Paul Waymond Caine, George Wesley Edmonds, and Elder Watson Diggs designed a solid foundation within a year’s time in order to create a brotherhood worth being apart of. ‘Psi was nationally incorporated under the name of Kappa Alpha Nu on May 15, 1911. The name of the organization was changed to its current name in 1915, shortly after its creation.’

‘The motto of the Fraternity is, Achievement in every field of human endeavor. During this time, there were very few African-American students at the majority white campus at Bloomington, Indiana and they were a small minority due to the era of the Jim Crow laws. The racial prejudice and discrimination encountered by the founders strengthened their bond of friendship and growing interest in starting a social group.’
Several individuals experience the party side of frats, but never truly know about the things that had to be overcome to bring it all together. No matter what the origins of this fraternity are, one thing is for certain and that is that this is their day and it deserves to be celebrated the right way. So if you’re a Nupe (Kappa) or even if you just know one, then take time out to celebrate the day that this organization of brotherhood was created.

5 Common Traits of Parents Who Have Successful Kids

Written by Salina Jivani

No one ever said parenting was easy. But it’s certainly the one thing we all strive to be better at. And then there’s the tricky question: how do you become an outstanding parent and pave the pathway to greatness for your own kids?

Do you have to go to parenting classes?

Read every parenting book you can get your hands on?

Sit through a lifetime of webinars and seminars?

Luckily, it’s a lot simpler than that. Thanks to the internet, info sharing is now easier than ever before, which means that at our very fingertips, we have access to a wealth of research and studies on the topic of smart parenting.

And thanks to this decades’ worth of research, data scientists have learned that parents of kids who grow up to be successful, accomplished adults actually do share a lot in common with one another. Here we share five of their similar attributes in hopes that we can learn from these parents and steal some of their best practices to benefit the future and hopefully imminent success of our own progeny.

Have high expectations

We’ve all heard how important it is to set goals. And that’s true for you—but also for your children. Parents of successful kids understood this early on and implemented goals in their own homes.

To help your kids reach and exceed their potential as little humans, it’s important you create and hold them to expectations from childhood. This could be as simple as counting on them to practice good behavior in pre-school to accepting only As and Bs on their elementary school report cards. By setting expectations, you’re aiming high and teaching your kids that they, too, should push themselves to elevated standards and goals. Doing this will spark within them a desire to grow, achieve and foster self-confidence in themselves—all traits that will come in very handy in the future. And once they get in the habit of anticipating expectation, they’ll start to set the same caliber of standards for themselves, always tackling tasks with ambition and optimism.

Plus, when you set sturdy objectives for your kids, such as vocalizing your desire for them to attend college, you’ll inherently help and push them toward those expectations, increasing their chances of success.

Fact: According to studies conducted throughout the decades, 57% of kids who performed the worst on standardized tests belonged to parents who expected them to attend college while an astonishing 96% of kids who had the highest scores on the same tests had parents who wished for them to attend college.

Promote social skills

Kids who grew to excel were taught social skills early on by their parents. In fact, children who possess social etiquette are proven to be more intelligent and successful overall—both as children and adults. Studies prove that kids who are taught manners are more empathetic, polite, helpful, easy to work with, compassionate and understanding than those kids who aren’t. Therefore, years down the road, they’re also the more sought after employees and team members than those kids who aren’t as socially well versed. So make time to teach your kids manners, show them to be polite and ask them to respect those around them. These small seeds of behavior planted in them young will set the course for positive future outcomes.

Fact: Kids who weren’t nearly as socially inclined were proven to get into a lot more trouble with the law and had increased chances of drinking, getting arrested and seeking public housing as adults.

Are well educated

Parents of successful children were well educated themselves. And because they attained a higher degree of education, they were better caregivers and role models for their children. How can you learn from these parents? By setting an example for your kids by first refining and bettering yourself. Practice what you preach. After all, your children will absorb from your actions a lot more than they will from your words. And the same goes with your educational standards. If you’re pushing your kids to do their best and wish for them to attain a higher level of education, you should attempt to do the same and you’ll automatically set a precedent.

Fact: How educated a parent is by the time their child is eight years old greatly influences how educated and career inclined that child will be himself approximately 40 years later.

Foster a strong relationship with their child

Kids who were most successful in their lives had parents who established a loving, nurturing relationship with them.

Creating a positive relationship with your child can be challenging, particularly as they grow older, but planting the seeds for a great relationship can’t start early enough. Raising your kids in the right environment and giving them a sense of comfort, love and trust early on will go a long way toward their future successes, and continue to bring them returns even later on in life as they themselves become parents.

Fact: Research proves that kids whose parents paid more attention to their needs, created a safe and trusting environment for them and heeded their feelings, particularly in the first three years, performed better on tests, fostered healthier relationships with people and had greater academic accomplishments in their 30s.

Have low stress levels

Successful parents shared a calm, low-stress demeanor. A lot of what your child will soak in will come directly from you. The way you behave, the way you speak, the words you choose, sooner or later will be reflected in your child—who will remind of a tiny mirror image of yourself. So be mindful of how you are around your children, particularly when they’re young.

Fact: Kids who are raised in an environment where parents are highly stressed, often absorb the same feelings and emotions their parents experience.

Take a look at all of the above and you’ll notice a pattern: your kids will be who they see. In essence, you. So nurture them well, hold them in high regard and in the process of it all, don’t forget to be a great role model yourself. We all want our children to be better versions of us, but for that to be a reality, you have to create the right environment and practice your own rules. After all, your kids are going to be one of life’s greatest and most hefty investments—and ones that will continue to reward you well into the future.

3 Fun and Simple Places to Enjoy the Holidays in Georgia

Written by Salina Jivani

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It’s the most wonderful time of the year…and that means there are a ton of equally wonderful events to help you celebrate this season of love, peace and charity.

Luckily, Atlanta’s one of those cities that’s always bustling with great, fun things to do for anyone and everyone. Whether you’re single, hitched or have a family in tow, you can choose from a whole slew of options this season. To get into the swing of the holiday spirit, be sure to be sure to check out these happening events.

2016 Macy’s Pink Pig

Macy’s is popular for their annual Christmas Tree lighting every year at Lenox Mall, but if you’ve missed that this year’s event and have little ones that you’re looking to enjoy something exciting with, worry not. You’ve still got a chance to make it up to them with the Macy’s Pink Pig event. A fun ride through a life-sized story book, the Pink Pig has been around since the 1950s and is still an adventure the wee ones look forward to. Hurry, while it’s still around, it won’t last—January 1st is the last day to enjoy!

Holiday lights

If you’re fascinated by the glimmer of Christmas, you’ll love the Garden Lights Holiday Nights display in Atlanta’s Botanical Gardens. But don’t stress if you have no time (or patience!) to make the trek to see some amazing holiday displays—no matter how spectacular they may be (and they’re pretty spectacular, if we may say so ourselves!). Plenty of local places are equally as reputable for their lovely lighting, including Callaway Gardens, Stone Mountain, Centennial Olympic Park and Lake Lanier Islands. Pick one of these more proximal locations to enjoy the holiday décor with less of the travel.

Atlantic Station

One of the most beautiful, high-end, bustling places in Atlanta wouldn’t be all the rave, all the time if it didn’t have at least something spectacular to offer this holiday season, right?

Beginning November, Atlantic Station opened its doors to Atlanta’s largest outdoor ice skating rink! If you’re looking to celebrate the holidays in a fun, festive way, this is the perfect opportunity to inject a little romance, or even family fun, into the season. Whether you decide to make it a daytime trip or a nice, mesmerizing evening under the stars, you won’t regret it.

But wait, is your holiday season already jam packed? Don’t worry! You’ve got plenty of time. The rink is open throughout the holidays till Valentine’s 2017 (hint-hint for proactive V-Day planners!).

If any of these don’t like something that might appeal to your interests, you can always surf the web for other great ideas or visit the Atlanta events website listed here (http://www.atlanta.net/events/seasonal/christmas/) for a list of annual events throughout the year.

Seasons greeting and happy holidays!

Traveling Down 2016’s Fashion Memory Lane

Written by Salina Jivani

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It’s the month of snow, chilly weather and holiday cheer. It’s also the last month of 2016—a year, just like any other, that will never return. But, luckily, that fate may not apply to every style that made it big this year’s fashion books.

As we inch forward into the last days of December, we thought we’d be remiss if we didn’t at least take a moment to reflect back on the most smashing trends of the year. Ones that may see the light of 2017 and still some that may be left behind only to be picked up in the future, like so many others trends of times past.

So without further adieu, here we go:

Chokers: Oh boy, did chokers make their presence known or what this year? And isn’t it amazing how incredibly stylish and sexy they make your neck look, whether you have one like a swan’s or a tree stump’s? This is one look we definitely still see around as the year comes to a close…and seems like this is one that might actually stick it through the new year.

Leopard print: Leopards, leopards everywhere. There was a time when animal print was so faux pas, style icons anywhere wouldn’t touch it with a ten-foot pole. Yet this year carried forward a trend from 2015 where leopard print tops, skirts, shoes, socks, even undergarments were snatched up like trees in a wildfire. We’ve got to admit after having had this print completely out-of-sight, out-of-mind for so long, it was a welcome treat to our eyes and a special addition to our wardrobes.

One-arm tops: We’ve seen them everywhere this year, yet they’ve never failed to look utterly exquisite, sexy and chic all at once. One-arm tops made a reappearance this year and—dare we say—they’ve never looked better. The trend surfaced in the warm summer months with one-arm shoulder straps and asymmetrical dresses, only to be carried forward into the chillier season in the form of one-arm blouses and sweaters.

We’re excited to see what exciting vogue and fashion statements are yet to be made in 2017. Thankfully, we won’t have to wait long to find out, with the new year eagerly awaiting just around the corner. Or perhaps Santa will lend a helping hand and seek the aid of his fashion elves to deliver us the perfect outfits for the new year…a girl can always hope!

(Pictured chokers from CreationZ From A Dove  available online at www.creationzfromadove.com)

How You Could be Suffering from Anxiety and Not Even Know

Written by Salina Jivani

Anxiety mental health symbol isolated on white. Mental disorder icon designMy grandmother was nuts. We used to laugh at her seemingly endless and silly list of worries. Everything from having to eat lunch at precisely noon to taking a shower to something as simple as going to the bathroom would stress her out. She would share stories about her bowel movements with intense seriousness and gravity and it seemed her entire universe started and ended in the bathroom. Ironically, that’s where she ended up passing away. That’s right. On the royal throne.

Jokes aside, what we should have known was that she suffered from something called anxiety disorder, which, unfortunately, is no laughing matter.

When you think of an anxious person, you probably conjure a picture of someone whose legs are restless, forehead is beaded with sweat, hands are wringing, and possibly someone who stutters. But anxiety is actually a lot more than just that, and maybe even a little different. Affecting nearly 14 million people in the U.S. alone, anxiety disorder is one of the most common types of mental illness in the U.S., but many people don’t even know they have it.

What is anxiety, really?

Have you ever had to prepare for a huge deadline? Or present something in front of a large audience? It’s normal to sweat over these kinds of common work situations. After all, no one wants to be a failure or be perceived as a dumb-dumb.

But while the average worry-wart spends about 55 minutes sweating over such scenarios, those with anxiety spend almost five times the amount, or over 300 minutes in a single day, worrying about the same exact issue. Anxiety is when you feel an overwhelming sense of worry or experience nervous behavior or internal unrest to a degree that it affects your everyday activities.

If this sounds like you, you’re not alone.

Surprising signs of anxiety

It could be stage fright. Or perhaps you feel like all eyes are on you when you’re in a room. Suddenly you feel nervous. You can barely concentrate on your surroundings and in your mind you’re constantly berating your every action, your every word.

Anxiety is painful, yet many people who have these feelings of constant doubt, internal uncertainty and overwhelming anxiousness in seemingly simple situations don’t even realize what they’re suffering through.

And that’s because common symptoms aren’t what you might expect them to be. Common signs of anxiety include:

Chronic indigestion
Problems sleeping
Shortness of breath
Tingling or numbness in extremities like your hands and feet
Dizziness
Heart palpitations
Irrational fears
Self-consciousness
Panic attacks
Compulsive behaviors
The worst part about anxiety is that it affects your everyday life. You dwell on your problems and fears to the point where you can’t lead a normal life and move beyond what’s consuming your thoughts. People who have this disorder may feel like their life comes to a standstill anytime they’re faced with something that causes them this kind of extreme discomfort.

How to get cured

Anxiety disorder is a form of mental disease, so the cure for it is much like how other mental illnesses like depression are treated—with medication and psychotherapy.

Going back to the story of my grandmother, we know she was suffering through anxiety and she took regular medications for it. But the one day she ran out of her dosage or forgot to take it was hell to pay in our home. She would go nuts and drive everyone around her nuts, to the point that my father would go berserk and lash out at everyone around him. Not fun times for sure. But the bottom line is, if you decide to go the medication route, remember that every medication has its side effects and can cause dependencies. So if you don’t take your medication or happen to skip a dose, it’s likely you’ll feel a significant change within yourself.

If you’re looking for a more natural route, some specialists might recommend remedies like yoga and acupuncture.

Whatever you decide, make sure you do your research and consult with a specialist first. However, the most important thing you can do—and the most crucial step—is recognizing that anxiety disorders are a true illness and should be treated with as much care and attention as any other.