Written by Salina Jivani
You’re walking down the street, trying to find that restaurant you’re supposed to meet your friend at, and you see several people around you. Ever notice how you have a tendency to feel more inclined to approach one person versus another? No, it’s not in your head—people give out different vibes. And some people don’t emit such great ones.
You may notice that your best friend just gives you a warm, fuzzy feeling while your evil aunt from Tennessee really is just plain evil. Here are five personality types you should definitely keep away from to avoid the negativity and feeling of ill will from permeating your life.
The green giant of envy
Jealousy is an intrinsic human trait we all experience every now and again, but overly envious people just don’t seem to catch a break from it. You know this person because they’re constantly eyeing what others have, upset that they can’t flaunt something equivalent or better. And they’re never content with anything they get—no matter how great it may be, because they always spot greener pastures elsewhere in someone else’s backyard. Keeping company with envious people may rub off on you and, eventually, you might find yourself exhibiting some of the same traits as them. So steer clear of such individuals and don’t look back.
We’ve all known someone who’s super nice to us…with the caveat that they need some favor or another in return…just innocently or out of thin air. But you know better than that. Manipulators are very calculated—they know exactly what they’re doing and why they’re doing it. And their list of favors is never ending. The moment you stop acquiescing to their requests, they’ll drop you faster than a dead bug on a fly swatter.
The damsel in distress
A great and true friend is someone who’s there during times of difficulty, but if you find yourself being a great friend a little too often, it might be because your pal is a self-perpetrated victim. These people always want to whine and complain about life’s curveballs, but they never want to do anything to help themselves past them, instead opting to make other people feel sorry at their completely “helpless” situation. Instead of trying to prod them to take action, it’s probably just easier to walk away because once a person is set in his ways…well, you know how that story goes.
You’ve probably come across someone who constantly sees everything you do as an opportunity to one up you. Being in company of someone like that is like tiptoeing on eggshells, always having to weigh your thoughts and what you say aloud, wondering how it will be received and possibly rebutted or outdone. People who constantly need to feel superior to others usually have many deep-rooted confidence problems. You don’t want to be the butt of their frustrations or unresolved issues, so it’s better just to avoid their kind of personality altogether.
Everyone has ups and downs, so we understand that life is more like a roller coaster than a skating rink. However, moody people have no true reason for their sudden shift in temperament other than they simply feel like going from one extreme to the other. In other words, there’s often no rhyme, reason or logic behind their temperament. And people with this kind of personality are dangerous and extremely draining because you don’t know what can set them off and you don’t know how to stop a happy moment from becoming a terrible one. To prevent yourself from feeling exhausted and using too much mental energy on these people, it’s better to just dump them.
Remember that while toxic people do exist, not everyone is toxic. There are plenty of beautiful people out there who have minor flaws (but don’t we all?!) so when possible, try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt instead of automatically trying to shove them into one of the above categories. Otherwise, the world can fast become a boring place.