3 Small Things to Practice Mindfulness During a Busy Day

Written by Aysha Chaudhry

We live in a world of constant motion; there are rarely any breaks throughout our day as we hop from one task to another. We can burn ourselves out because we feel like we have to be working towards something at all times, whether it be work or social related.

It’s easy to forget that taking a moment to relax can increase our productivity, as it can bring us peace and restoration. Here are 3 small ways to incorporate mindful meditation into your hectic day.

1. Get up and take a walk, even if it’s only for a few minutes. Being outside and in the sunlight can relieve stress and increase endorphins in the body.

2. Close your eyes and just focus on your breathing. By being aware of your breath, you can help calm your mind.

3. Get rid of distractions. When you are taking a moment to relax, turn off your phone and try to remove anything that will divert your attention

By practicing these things consistently, you will be on the way to a more mindful and healthy life.

What Is Analysis-Paralysis and How to Overcome It In Your Daily Life

Written By Aysha Chaudhry

Let’s face it, we all at some point in our lives have been in a situation where we were so stuck on weighing all of our options that we couldn’t bring ourselves to make a decision. The situation could have been as simple as “Where should I go eat?” or the more difficult “What’s the next career move for me?” but when looking at all of the choices we had, we became overwhelmed and decided to just stay home and eat leftovers or wait out a few more months in our job.

This dilemma is called analysis-paralysis and it happens much more often than we think. With the rise of technology use and literally having the Internet at our fingertips, we have so much information available to us that we can become overwhelmed easily. And as women, we have a tendency to over-analyze a lot more than men.

To overcome this information overload for some of the more important decisions in your life, Adam J. Kurtz, author of Things Are What You Make of Them, suggests that you just start doing. As you start to do whatever it is you want to do, you can see what works and what doesn’t and you can evolve from there. Let others in and let them provide feedback. And just continue to do. While it is good to do your research before you start, the real learning comes from taking action. Any small action is better than inaction.

3 Ways to Make a Spectacular First Impression—Every Single Time

Written by Salina Jivani

We all know first impressions count—a lot. Whether you’re meeting a coworker for the first time, interviewing with your future manager, finally chatting up that hottie you’ve been eyeing in the Starbucks line, or simply speaking with a friendly stranger in the bread aisle of your local grocer—your first impression will be a lasting one. So how do you make it impactful? Here are three tips to get you started.

 

Know what you do—and be able to explain it

One of the most common questions you’ll get when you first meet someone is: So, what do you do? And we’ve all spoken to someone who tries to answer this question only for you to hear crickets chirping at the end. Remember that while your occupation and job responsibilities are clear to you, they likely won’t be to a stranger. So be able to articulate—in Layman’s and simplistic terms—what it is you do, and try to keep it high level.

 

Mind your body language

Sometimes we’re so focused on verbal cues that we forget all about the non-verbal ones. Your body language says a lot about you and how you’re processing a conversation. Don’t cross your arms or put your hands in your pockets. These postures often relay a lack of confidence or communicate a defensive stance. Instead, put your hands by your sides, keep your back straight and shoulders wide, and remain relaxed to show that you’re confident and interested in the conversation at hand.

 

Be a fabulous listener

Listen more than you talk. While a two way dialogue is integral in any conversation, showing someone that you’re listening, interested in and respectful of what they’re saying is sure to set a strong impression of you—because when you listen to someone, you make them feel important. And who doesn’t love feeling important?

 

In short, your facial expressions, tone, and body language all matter in your first encounter. So pay attention to them and leave a positive mark—the very first time, every time!

 

3 Ways To Be Taken More Seriously at Work

Written by Salina Jivani

Does it ever feel like your opinions or thoughts aren’t really considered at work? Or do you ever wonder why people take notice of that other colleague of yours who doesn’t know his right shoe from his left? What’s he got that you don’t? The answer’s probably easier than you think. Here are three quick, easy ways you can make yourself stand out—and be taken more seriously right away.

Dress For Success

It’s probably one of the more obvious points, put if you wear wrinkled clothes and look sloppy, well, that’s not a great impression. Be sure your clothes are professional and impeccable—they’ll speak for you before you even get a chance to open your mouth!

Be Engaged

Higher ups always appreciate associates who become synonymous with the company and make the company’s problems their own. Show initiative by offering opinions, suggestions (even a fancy, random PowerPoint presentation) on issues or topics of discussion to prove that you take your company—and your job—seriously.

Speak like a boss

Ever met someone who looked smart, sophisticated, and wise—until they opened their mouth? Don’t be that person. Before you talk, be thoughtful about what you’re going to say, and then use an authoritative, calm tone when you speak. Always make sure you don’t interrupt others and be sure to give them the attention they deserve when they speak—when you offer this simple courtesy, you can often expect to see it returned to you.

 

These easy steps can give your workplace impression an instant makeover—and get you on the pathway to greater successes ahead!

3 Ways You Can Benefit From Rejection

Written by Salina Jivani

Remember what it felt like when you didn’t get that job you really wanted? Or when you got turned down by that hot babe?

Rejection hurts, but it also can help you—if you roll with the punches and don’t let a “no” halt your efforts or question your abilities.

 

Here’s how you can grow and become a better, stronger you by embracing rejection and learning from it.

 

Have a growth mindset

There are those who think knowledge or success is innate or happens by luck, and those who believe success is a result of your own efforts. Being in the latter of the two categories means you have a “growth mindset,” which is exactly what you want. People who have a growth mindset use rejections to grow and improve—they don’t merely shrug, blame the denial on luck and give up.

 

Be open to feedback

Feedback is golden because it’s completely free—and, when used effectively, it can help you identify your weaknesses and turn them into strengths. So keep your ears open, soak it in wisely, and use it to your benefit.

 

Practice and keep practicing

Once you know why you were rejected, practice on making yourself better. If you were turned down for an interview in favor of someone with more experience, find ways to gain experience. If your novel didn’t pique the interest of an agent because the characters seemed unreal, work on character development. There’s always room to improve—you just have to be willing to invest time on those improvements.

 

Remember, rejection can either make you or break you. It’s up to you to decide which path you want to travel.

 

What Is “Imposter Syndrome” Is—and How You Can Overcome it

Written by Salina Jivani

You’re a bad-ass employ. You’re the star of meetings, you’ve got this fancy work title that makes you look like you’re all that in a bag of M&Ms, and you’ve even got a degree to prove you’re the real deal.

 

So why do you still feel like you’re a fake? Because you’ve got a bad case of the “imposter syndrome.”

 

You know what it’s like: that overwhelming feeling that you don’t deserve the credibility you’re receiving, or that you’re not really an expert, though everyone seems to think you are. And while you’re thinking about it, are you even good at what you do?

 

Imposter syndrome sucks, because it makes you question your ability—and sometimes even your worth in a career. Fortunately, there are ways to get over that horrible, sinking feeling that you’re nothing but a fraud.

 

Focus on your successes—not your failures

Imposter syndrome can often rear its ugly head when things go absolutely wrong and you don’t perform your best. But it can also happen when things are going great. Remember that you are where you are in your career because of your successes and accomplishments, not your failures. So focus on the positive.

 

Know that it’s not just you

If you feel like it’s just you who suffers imposter syndrome, take comfort in knowing that that’s not the case. Even the most famous and successful of talent, people like Tom Hanks, Tina Fey and Emma Watson, have had suffered this feeling. In fact, it’s said that up to 70% of people are likely to have imposter syndrome at some point in their lives.

 

Talk to someone

Speaking with a good friend or coworker about your feelings may surprise and reassure you because you’ll likely find that they, too, share or have experienced similar doubts—which should prove that imposter syndrome is totally normal and certainly nothing specific to you or any inadequacies you may feel you have.

 

If you feel overwhelmed by feelings of inadequacy, be sure to consult with a professional or work on things that help boost your confidence—like extra trainings or classes. Investing in yourself is one of the best investments you’ll ever make.

Embedded microchips: Are They in Your Immediate Future?

Written by Salina Jivani

Nose jobs, liposuction and breast implants, move aside. Soon you might be asked to insert a chip into your skin for things as simple as getting you through the security gates of your office building.

 

Sounds creepy, strange, and just a tad invasive, no? You’re right, but unfortunately (or fortunately, depending on which side of the fence you’re on), embedding microchips into humans is already happening…which means it could be the new “thing” sooner rather than later.

 

In fact, a company is Wisconsin is already planning on inserting these chips into 50 employees so they can access their work buildings and log into their computers without the need for entrance cards or log-in credentials.

 

Places like Sweden have replaced train tickets with chips inserted in passengers’ hands. Even pets owners have used chips in their pets to keep them from getting lost—which begs the question: How safe are these chips?

 

According to the Food and Drug Administration (FDA), they might be pretty safe. The FDA initially approved the use of a Radio Frequency chip in 2004 and has since prompted people who’ve had the chip inserted into them to report any issues to its website.

 

Pet owners have reported issues like loss of limb function, lymphoma, cancer and sudden deaths due to chip implants.

 

So what does this mean for the larger population? To chip or not to chip? The debate is still raging. While employers, particularly in places like Sweden, favor chip insertion in employees, arguing that it makes life a whole lot simpler, others will clearly need some getting used to the idea—if/when and before it ever becomes the new “thing.” In either case, don’t be surprised if you’re one day asked to toss your passports in the trash…your hands may be the only boarding pass you’ll need.

The Scientific Secret to Amazing Sex

Written by Salina Jivani

Remember what it felt like when you first started dating? The fire burning in your belly, the desire-filled glances, and how you couldn’t get enough of each other?

 

And then two years later, you’re eating out of a bucket of Ben & Jerry’s, cuddled up on the couch, limbs entangled, watching “Titanic,” with little to no desire to get freaky…what happened to the sparks?

 

No, they didn’t fizzle out like a campfire under an ice-cold bucket of water. They’re still there, they just need some reviving, which isn’t difficult, really. The secret’s in one word: responsiveness. And really, responsiveness is a two-part deal: physical responsiveness and verbal responsiveness.

 

When your partner’s talking, don’t tune them out. Listen—actually listen—and respond to what they’re saying. Ask them what they’re feeling, respond when they share something with you, and be present when they’re sharing their thoughts instead of tuning into that Super Bowl commercial. Being responsive through words is called verbal responsiveness.

 

On the other hand, physical responsiveness is, well, pretty self explanatory (and fun). Hugging, kissing, caressing and making love are all a part of physical responsiveness.

 

Now, combine verbal and physical responsiveness, and what have you got? A recipe for a hot, steamy, satisfying session between the sheets. Why? Because everyone loves feeling important, cared for, and physically appreciated—and when you’re responsive toward your partner, that’s exactly what you make them feel, creating a sizzling equation for mind-boggling sex.

 

So go on. The next time your partner tells you they’re not in the mood, give it a try and watch the sparks fly.

3 Ways Life is Scientifically Different for Men and Women

Written by Salina Jivani

You say potato, he hears pot-ta-toe. He says cheese, you hear sneeze. Women and men speak different tongues. But it’s no coincidence. In fact, nature proves that these two genders are different in many ways…on purpose. Here are three scientifically proven ways we differ from the opposite gender.

Women see more colors than men

She says mint-colored scarf and you a grab lime-colored one. It happens…quite often. And it’s not because men are dense or careless. It’s simply because women are able to detect more shades than men. Something to do with our hunter-gatherer days and how women were charged with avoid lethal shades of berries and pick out the right ones, keeping everyone safely fed.

Men need less shuteye

If you find your woman reaching for the snooze button while you’re rearing to go a million miles an hour, it’s not because she’s lazy. It’s more because women tend to multitask more, take on more stress and sleep more restlessly than men, meaning their brains need an average of about 20 minutes more to recover from it all.

Women usually feel cold faster than men

Ever find yourself battling your spouse over the thermostat? Temperature is a common gripe among many couples—and with good reason. Science proves that because of the different metabolic rates in men and women, women tend to feel colder than men—at home, work and everywhere in between.

While we may not completely ever understand the opposite sex (or agree with them) isn’t it comforting to know that the forces of nature meant to make us different?

4 Life Lessons Women Over 50 Want to Share with You

Ever wish you could tell your younger self something? Or wish you’d done something differently in life? The beauty of life is that while we cannot change the past, we can always learn from people who’ve traversed the territory or phase of life we’re currently struggling through. If you’re a woman, here are life lessons women over 50 want to share with you…and their younger selves.

Don’t be too serious

Ever feel the tension in your shoulders and the anxiety thrumming through you? Yes, life can be stressful, but remember every problem is temporary. Make the most of every moment by remembering to laugh, smile and enjoy the moment. Don’t dwell so much on trivial matters that will be insignificant by tomorrow.

Become a better listener

When you listen—really listen—you learn so much more about the world around you…and the people in it. Practice good listening skills and learn to ask astute questions. Doing so will improve your understanding of people and give you wisdom.

Make yourself #1

We’re daughters one moment, wives the next and soon, moms. In the midst of those responsibilities, it’s easy to shove your needs on the backburner. But remember, to be a strength in other’s lives, you’ve got to commit first to yourself. Focus on your well being and health—both physical and mental. When you’re taken care of, so will be the people you love.

Surround yourself by positivity

Positivity breeds positivity. Keep company with good, positive people in your life and pull that energy into your own life. It won’t be long before you notice that positive things will automatically swing your way.

Remember: It’s never too late to affect a positive change in your life. And it’s better to start late than never.