Written by Dominique Bancey
As a follow up to “Ex-periences”, I have decided to share one of my lessons, my most recent one actually, with all of you. I didn’t want to seem biased in this article though so I decided to ask my ex a few questions so you could get their perspective as well.
We were together for 5 (almost 6) months in a long distance relationship. I flew out and visited them for 6 weeks. About a month later, we broke up.
Q: What’s your favorite memory from the relationship?
A: “My favorite memory is when we had just got done spending a long day together and I was dozing off before I took my makeup off or put my bonnet on or anything and you got me ready for bed while I was half asleep, and cleaned my face and tattoo for me.”
Q: Did you think the relationship would’ve lasted longer? Why?
A: “I thought our relationship would’ve lasted longer but the more times I spent in the relationship was the more I felt like we probably wouldn’t have gotten married, and I think this because as much as we loved each other, our personalities just don’t mesh together where it was most important in a relationship.”
Q: In your opinion, what would you say were some cons of the relationship?
A: “I would say the cons were your lack of patience and my lack of acceptance of the fact that not everything can go as I plan and people cannot always react or act the way I want them to.”
Q: What do you think ultimately caused the relationship to fail and what could’ve been done to prevent or fix this issue?
A: “I think our relationship failed because of lack of communication and working together in our final moments of being together which really drove us to breaking up, and I think if we just took the time to both be understanding enough of the other side and really care together with a plan of how to make things better and thoroughly communicate about it, then it could’ve lasted.”
Lessons were learnt by the both of us, and as you can tell by the responses, communication is key.
Until next time.