Written by Dominique Bancey
This topic in itself hits me so hard which is why I put part 1 because I know for a fact that I’m going to have a lot to say that I don’t want to have to summarize into a single article.
First off, there are plenty of angles this article could go into, and also could be seen from.
I want to start this off with the perspective from partners/friends who believe that someone should ‘feel better’ because they are in that person’s life.
Some of you may have read that and are genuinely shocked that people are like that, but trust me, I’ve experienced it firsthand, along with just observing from the outside. Relationships are referring to both romantic and platonic.
Many times when a person becomes involved with someone who has depression or anxiety, they assume that because they are in that person’s life, the individual should automatically feel better about themselves. Overall, even individuals who do not suffer from a mental illness still suffer from bad times while in relationships, so why should it be any different? A common phrase or sentence that pops up when the person is going through a depressive episode tends to be, “Oh so I don’t make you happy anymore?”
Let’s dig deeper into this question – “Oh so I don’t make you happy anymore?”
Happiness, comes from within. Someone may contribute to another person’s happiness or cause them to make them happier than they already are but true happiness, is a trait that can only come from within. A depressive episode causes this individual to go through extreme sadness, it doesn’t mean that what you do for and with them isn’t satisfying, it just means that their mental illness is taking over and the little things you’re doing have lost the fight with depression.
Being with someone or being friends with someone who has a mental illness can cause you to feel like you have one too. This doesn’t mean you do have one and you know exactly what they’re going through, it just means that you have to try to understand more, instead of assuming that they’ll feel better because you’re around.
Unfortunately part 1 has already come to an end, but most definitely stick around for part 2.
Until next time.