As married couples, we’ve learned that we have a unique task to create our own paradise. There are many things that seek to influence us in our relationships whether blatant or subtly. Whether we realize it or not, there is a force that is opposed to your happiness in marriage. These forces can come in many forms like in-laws, fake friends, social media, the Joneses, and whatever else seeks to tell you how or what your marriage should be. There is really noting wrong with admiring other couples and looking to other couples as a template for mentorship etc. We want to lay out the more practical examples.
Your home is where you set the tone of what thoughts and views matter most in your relationship. The environment that you create is also the environment that you will replicate. We need boundaries because if we aren’t careful negative voices, opinions, and views can spoil the fun! It is so important to find ways to unplug from the distractions of our daily lives and simply enjoy each other.
With our media and social media driven lives, it becomes incredibly hard to put our phones down and smell the roses. Have you ever thought about what your marriage would be like if you were married 20 years ago? This would be the time when YouTube and social media didn’t really matter. There weren’t any reality television shows that made us act crazy or co-signed our ratchetness lol!
Now, we aren’t saying that any of these things are wrong. What we are truly implying is that there is a time and place for everything in your marriage. Don’t allow temporary things like phones, texts, or media to replace the irreplaceable space of your spouse. Set boundaries like times to post, (if you are an entrepreneur). Calendar your moves. And then make sure your spouse has that personal time and attention that they so desperately need. You owe that to them and to yourself. You create their paradise by actually being there presently with them! Until next time, we wish you the best of luck.
Dave & Kimmie