Written by Salina Jivani
Remember what it felt like when you didn’t get that job you really wanted? Or when you got turned down by that hot babe?
Rejection hurts, but it also can help you—if you roll with the punches and don’t let a “no” halt your efforts or question your abilities.
Here’s how you can grow and become a better, stronger you by embracing rejection and learning from it.
Have a growth mindset
There are those who think knowledge or success is innate or happens by luck, and those who believe success is a result of your own efforts. Being in the latter of the two categories means you have a “growth mindset,” which is exactly what you want. People who have a growth mindset use rejections to grow and improve—they don’t merely shrug, blame the denial on luck and give up.
Be open to feedback
Feedback is golden because it’s completely free—and, when used effectively, it can help you identify your weaknesses and turn them into strengths. So keep your ears open, soak it in wisely, and use it to your benefit.
Practice and keep practicing
Once you know why you were rejected, practice on making yourself better. If you were turned down for an interview in favor of someone with more experience, find ways to gain experience. If your novel didn’t pique the interest of an agent because the characters seemed unreal, work on character development. There’s always room to improve—you just have to be willing to invest time on those improvements.
Remember, rejection can either make you or break you. It’s up to you to decide which path you want to travel.