Written by Salina Jivani
They say men are from Mars and women are from Venus. And maybe they, whoever “they” are, are right, because it certainly can be difficult to understand the opposite sex, leading to frustration, arguments, and, yes, even fights. Whether bickering is a pretty regular occurrence in your day-to-day life with your partner or not, fights are inevitable, here are three big-time no-nos to avoid once the fireworks have died down.
Reject their apology
If your partner is gathering the guts and courage to dish out an apology—no matter how wrong they are—take it. You don’t have to apologize in return, and, yes, maybe you’re still a wee bit mad, but do not throw their apology back in their face…unless you’re hoping for WWII.
Act like it never happened
The worst thing you can do is nearly rip each other’s heads off to only moments later act like nothing ever even happened. Shoving your fight under the proverbial rug will only create for more tension and unresolved disputes—both of which are never healthy in a relationship and will either resurface later on or create an unsurmountable wedge between the two of you. Learn to talk things out so that you know better for next time. After all, relationships are about growing, not repeating past mistakes.
Giving your partner the cold shoulder or throwing sarcastic jabs his or her way after the fight is over is not the way to go. Instead, if you feel that strongly about what’s happened, talk it out in a healthy, adult-like way, and let the anger out.
Fights are tough, and forgiving can be even tougher. But in the end, forgiveness is the only way you’ll be able to move forward in any relationship and build a stronger, better you.